Wednesday, August 01, 2007

Feedback is good

Apparently, my anonymous commenter was not the only one who thought I was being harsh about my Aunt's quilt. It's a good reminder to me that things don't always come across in writing the same way they would in person.

I thought with a title that said " I really suck at this" and text that read "if I'll walk away from the quilt when I'm discouraged and come back to it later, I don't see every single wobble and poorly stitched line like I do as I'm quilting it" it would be clear that my negativity was directed at my own efforts

Although she doesn't read my blog; I have told my Aunt that her quilts tend to be a challenge mainly because of her borders and fullness so I wasn't saying something here she hasn't heard before.

10 comments:

Norma said...

I plead guilty of having half a brain I guess.

Hang in there Mary!

Laurie Ann said...

Don't stress too much about it. I think what you were trying to do was justify not fixing your quilting by saying why should your quilting be perfect if the quilt isn't perfect either, especially since you are doing it as a favor to her. And I agree. Keep practicing and I am sure she'll be thrilled with what you are doing and you'll be even better at it next time.

Leah S said...

Goodness, people can get uptight over the littlest things.

Kinda reminds me of the story of a long armer who had a customer that would put a pin in the center of her backing. The long armer kept telling the customer not to do that, cuz sooner or later she was going to miss the pin and sew it right into the quilt. Sure enough, half a dozen quilts later it happened. The long armer said "oh well! back to the customer it goes, without fixing the problem". I doubt the customer learned though...

And your aunt reminds me of that. She's happy doing it her way, she doesn't see a point in doing it another way. and hey, you've always been able to quilt her quilts, so her way mustn't be THAT bad.

Would she understand your frustration better if you sent the quilt back to her unquilted? Any other professional long armer would be doing that, or tacking on extra fees to fix the border.

On the other hand, yes in deed, you do have some good quilts to "practice" on. :) I wouldn't worry about the echo quilting thing, nobody would be able to see those flaws from a galloping horse. ;)

Actually, my motto has been "they won't know unless you tell them". So every single quilt I make might have a mistake or another... but my lips are zipped. :) No way is somebody going to take a ruler and measure every stitch to make sure they're all 1/10th of a inch or less apart.

I do hope quilting remains a pleasure for you, despite wonky quilts and hiccups in the quilting. :)

keryn said...

Don't join the ranks of the Apologentsia Mary. It's your blog and you can say what you think. Once you start editing everything, because someone may take offence, all the colour goes out of what you have to say. I like your blog just the way it is.

You can always qualify everything you say with Seinfeld's all-encompassing disclaimer 'Not that there's anything wrong with that'......

Darlene said...

I know you were just frustrated and needed to vent - it doesn't matter the subject - you just needed to vent.

Relax and just keep doing what you're doing! :-)

Belvie said...

I don't know if I'm wierd or what....but I understood your blog posting just as you intended. My understanding was that you were frustrated with yourself. I didn't take your comment as a slam to your aunt.

Kairle said...

It sure is easy to hide behind the name "Anonymous", isn't it? Don't be so hard on yourself...just consider the source.

JudyL said...

I understood exactly what you meant. I'm willing to bet that the anonymous commenter is not a longarm quilter and has never experienced the frustration of working on quilts made by the same topper who makes the same mistakes over and over again. Quilt Police is one thing but when the longarmer is trying to do the best job she can, it helps tremendously if the piecer does the best she can too.

Ughhh . . I hope my comment doesn't offend anyone but I think at least other longarmers will know what I mean.

Lynn Dykstra said...

Your humor is coming through just fine.
I refer to quilts I'm not especially happy with as "Sister-in-law Quilts", meaning they can be given to sisters-in-law without too much angst in letting them go.
I also told my neighbor and confidant yesterday that when I die and at my funeral, when the pastor says, "She never had an unkind word about anyone," she has to stand up and say, "I beg to differ..."

deputyswife said...

You know, blogs are a place to vent too. Once when venting about my boys (which happens a lot!) an anonymous comment chastised me for not appreciating my children. They thought if l learned a little patience, I might be better equiped when dealing with a problem.

The commentor never commented on my posts where I praised my boys (which happens a lot too!) and focused only on my somewhat negative post. At first, it really ticked me off. Then, I thought, hey, it's my blog and I can say what I want!

Honestly, when I read that post, I did not take your comments in a bad way. I just thought that you were frustrated. (like we all are at times) I feel that if the anonymous commentors want to be taken seriously, they should leave a name.